What is a Reaction?
A reaction is a quick and instant action towards a stimulus. It does not involve an evaluation of action or its impact before the action is done. Rather, it is driven by emotions on autopilot mode without any filter. In some situations a reaction is accepted but in others it can have a negative outcome.
Reactions also include defence mechanisms of the body that have been established due to past experiences.
What is a Response?
A response is preceded by concrete thinking and a thorough evaluation of the stimulus and the impact of the action. During a response, the mind is calm which helps it to comprehend the incoming stimulus and presents the response after consulting the conscious and unconscious mind. It involves thinking about the consequences of the response on the surrounding environment and people.
The habit of responding is not instinctive, it has to be inculcated. Responses become a default behaviour when the individual has self-awareness, self-regulation, mindfulness empathy and good social skills.
Difference between React and Respond
A reaction and a response may seem similar. Both are certainly instigated by a stimulus. But both have a different process, which makes all the difference.
Below are a few points to clarify reacting vs responding:
Reaction
-Instant and driven by emotions
- Inbuilt in nature
- Has to be learnt and purposefully practised
Based on prejudices, stereotypes and personal past experiences. Often a result of defence mechanism
- Done without thinking of the consequences
- Mainly survival oriented
- May have a positive or negative impact based on the situation
- Impulsive and aggressive in nature
- Leads to poor communication and may cause confusion in relationships
Response
- Slow to come and processed through conscious and unconscious mind
- Has to be learnt and purposefully practised
- Requires self-awareness, self-regulation, mindfulness empathy and good social skills
- Weighs the pros and cons of the response on the surrounding environment and people
- Falls in line with the core morales if the individual
- Has a positive impact
- Calm and well thought through in nature
- Bring about focused communication and even helps find solution to problems
Which Should I Practice?
Since reactions are inbuilt,they come easier than responses. All of us have a tendency to react often rather than respond because responses have to be initiated purposefully. Despite being learnt, responses help you make better decisions.
Therefore, in order to make better decisions and create a positive response through your actions, a response is always preferred.
One of the main requirements of responding is being mindful of the response. This mindfulness can be practised through the P.L.A.C.E. skill.
Pause
Take a step back and evaluate the trigger or situation.
Label the emotion
Understand the emotion you are feeling as a result of the trigger. It may be anger, annoyance, frustration, irritability, anxiety or disappointment.
Ask why
Ask yourself why you are feeling triggered. Why is the situation or person making you feel that specific emotion?
This step helps us become self-aware
Choose a mindful response
Think of how you want to respond to it. Weigh the pros and cons of the response that you want to choose. If it affects you or anyone else negatively, try coming up with another response. Or, if it brings a positive response, execute it.
Empower yourself
Now that you have learnt the process of being mindful, make an effort to implement it each time there is a react vs respond situation.
Practising the P.L.A.C.E. skill regularly will help you move forward in life with a positive mindset
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